Posted on January 3, 2013 · Posted in Blog

Divorce & New Year’s Resolutions

What’s your 2016 New Year’s Resolution?

Whether it’s giving up wine or chocolate, getting fit, changing jobs, or travelling more, many people will make their pledge as the famous New Year’s Eve Ball descends from the flagpole atop Times Square at midnight on the 31st of December. And many of those pledges will have to do with getting a divorce in 2016.

New Years Times Square

After years of being in the divorce business, we at Kelowna Divorce know full well that January is the most common month of the year for couples to file their divorce papers, or start their separation agreements, based on how busy our office gets this time of year. In fact, one can even pinpoint the exact day. We call it “D” day and it is the first Monday after school reopens and the beginning of the first full work week after the long holiday break. In 2016 that date is Monday, January 4th.

The mounting pressures of an unstable economy resulting in high unemployment rates, crumbling (or increasing) real estate prices, the high cost and expectation of Christmas, and trying to stick it out as a family for the sake of the kids, is often too much for a couple to bear. These stressors can take your health, and they certainly can destroy your relationship with your spouse.

new years elderly divorceBut it doesn’t happen overnight. “D” day is the culmination of a long, painful process of thinking, evaluating and deciding. The idea has probably been simmering for months and many individuals delay the inevitable for a number of reasons – sometimes it’s simply a worry about the cost; some individuals are not 100% sure they can follow through with it; and many are concerned that a divorce, when house prices are falling, means they’ll lose too much and they won’t have anything to start their new lives.

And, of course, a major factor for many couples is their children. Prior to the holiday season this year, a surprisingly high number of couples sadly shared with us that this would be their last family Christmas together before dad and mom split up. We have a handful of couples who even made pre-Christmas appointments to visit our office in January to discuss their divorces.

So, if you are one of the couples beginning the divorce journey this January,  we understand that it was not an overnight decision, and in fact, it’s been a long, painful one. Remember that this is a transition – not a way of life. You will get through it and you will once again find happiness.

Is this the year you make a different kind of resolution, a divorce resolution? If you live in British Columbia, there’s a lot more information on our website about the separation and divorce process that applies to you. In March 2013, many of the rules for divorce changed and you need to know your rights and options.

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We are not expensive lawyers; we are family divorce mediators and rebuilding coaches.  Our boutique divorce mediation firm has become Kelowna’s first choice when dealing with separation and divorce, and beyond. It is possible to reduce stress, time and conflict. Our mediation and rebuilding models educate and empower our clients, so that when you leave you have a document that will stand the test of time, and a process for rebuilding your life.

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